Why do men love bitches? From Doormat to Dreamgirl

i went on browsing emmagem just now, and read this article. and i love it..

Ever heard of the term, nice girls go to heaven …it is apparently true… . Nice girls die of heartbreak early in life and don’t get the men they want, at least by the standards of Sherry Argov. Okay, it’s another one of those gem of a book that emmagem couldn't’t resist. No, it’s not just another book on dating, bored yet or shall we continue…..

What is the biggest mistake most women make in life? They overcompensate. Too sweet, too kind, too giving, way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, cook him a four course meal, buy him an anniversary gift, don’t stay up too late cos’ he doesn’t like it, the list goes on and on….

Well, Sherry recommends on the first date, just serve him popcorn, because men really can’t tell 4 course or 5 course, all he knows is that he wants to get you into the sack. Don’t be too eager to please or else he would think there isn’t any mental challenge. Mental challenge according to men isn’t about debating the world economic forum but really it’s just how needy she appears to him. Men like women with a bit of edge, kind of like “steel magnolias” flowery on the outside and hard on the inside. Bitch is therefore synonymous with mental challenge according to Sherry’s research. Women with a little je na sais quoi, that something special!

This book attempts to define bitch as men would and addresses issues that men won’t. For instance he would NEVER say , “please don’t be a doormat “, “don’t always say yes”, “don’t revolve your world around me”. He’ll just take and take and then RUN!

The secret to success in love and in relationships is not with dressing sexily or faking orgasms! It also isn’t about age, or looks or figure but about self-esteem. The “bitch” is therefore defined as an empowered woman who derives tremendous strength from the ability to be an independent thinker, particularly in a world that still teaches women how to be self-abnegating. This woman doesn’t live by someone else’s standards, only her own.

Here, here, this is a book after emmagem’s own heart!

Play by no one else’s rule, feel confident, free and empowered….

The bitch is not someone rude and abrasive. She is polite but clear. Here are ten characteristics of a bitch:

She maintains her independence.
She doesn’t pursue him, she does not keep tabs on him. He is NOT the center of her world
She is mysterious. There is a slight difference between honesty and full disclosure.
She leaves him wanting, doesn’t leave long messages. Men equate longing with love. Longing is good, for them.
She doesn’t let him see her sweat. She doesn’t communicate when she is upset.
She remains in control of her time, she moves to her own rhythm.
She maintains a sense of humour.
She places a high value on herself, when she receives a compliment, she says thank you.
She is passionate about something other than a man. Stay busy.
She treats her body like a finely tune machine. Keep fit and feel good.
Interesting little tips are given in this book as to how a “bitch” would handle a man.

The bitch wouldn’t show care if a man calls 4 hours later then he promised and she would be too busy to notice and may or may not pick up the phone. She also knows who is the boss of herself, HER. She doesn’t obsess over his opinion of her or need his approval. She has her own priorities, values and preferences. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life. A bitch waits half an hour and makes other plans if a man is late for a date and didn’t call. How to let the man thinks he is the top dog and still run the show!

She won’t sugarcoat anything and is direct about her preferences, there is nothing childish about her, she will communicate when she is ready and at her own terms, she notices a man’s disrespect and instantly and without hesitation calls him on it. And she never does anything that she is uncomfortable about. She meets him on a level playing field.

The Bitch = A Desirable Woman = Increased Respect

Basically this book is really about a woman who has dignity and is not afraid to love herself and be loved for her self. The bitch while soft and feminine has quiet dignity and would not be manipulated and she is kind. She will not be defined by what other people think whilst seeking input and information, she will decide who she is. She is defined from within. From taste in clothes, needs in relationship right down to choice of occupation…a bitch decides for herself and defines herself by her choices.

Source: http://www.emmagem.com/2009/02/19/why-do-men-love-bitches-from-doormat-to-dreamgirl/

when we were to think of it, why should we impress guys? shouldn't we just impress ourselves enough to make us happy? life is short you know... it is not enough to be someone else, and it is just enough to be the way we are and just enough to improve or sharpen our bluntness. do ponder what will we be if we don't improve ourselves. cut it out, when saying to a person "you motivate me" it is not them who motivate you, but you should be motivated because of yourself!